You know your character when you see your actions... and hear the words you speak!

I have always thought that character deficiency is merely something to be harnessed, something to be trained... something we can more or less have good control of... no doubt at times we falter.. but who doesn't?

and yet he has shown me that the root of it all... is a lack of focus on him...

as I daily read his word and train myself to be aligned to him... and to no other prominent, outstanding human... I realised that streams of living water do and does flow... words of wisdom becomes words of his... that overflow from your heart... gentleness becomes his when you allow ur rock hard feelings to crumble and cherish every moment as a sacred moment with him... good or bad...

I need not mention the other aspects of the fruit of the spirit...

Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness and self-control

What the book I'm reading currently teaches us ain't how to no falter in relationships, neither is it 1001 things you can do whilst being single and how to treasure yourself using worldly ways... what it taught me was invaluable...

a right mindset... a right spirit of service... continually training of oneself into someone else's best choice and allowing God to choose the best for you by giving up the right to choose someone who is merely good... on your own insight. most of all? love the saviour and commune with him daily... how close you are to him is how close you'd be to your future spouse... to exercise the gifts of the spirit to produce fruit of the spirit...

out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks... sure there would be times we don't... we say the worse things to others and about others... but what's most important is the constant surrender and giving up your rights to the Lord everyday... :)